Monday, March 3, 2014

How dreadful...to be caught up in a game and have no idea of the rules. (Caroline Stevermer)

Rules and routine make relationships roll smoothly over life's bumpy road. They don't make the bumps go away, but they do let you handle them without too many crashes.

Cycling with a spouse has it's challenges. At the end of the ride, your spouse doesn't go off to a separate home. Routines get you out riding and the bikes maintained and the chores done. Rules keep you from resorting to small arms fire to settle disagreements and misunderstandings. The weaker rider will always have to work harder. The stronger rider will always have to hold back.

We've got four rules that work for us.
    Rule 1. No whining.
    Rule 2. No quitting.
    Rule 3. Al is always right. (Wink wink, nudge nudge...)
    Rule 4. Marsha always gets what she wants. (Wink wink, nudge nudge...)


We decided that our old routine of riding 5 days and taking 2 days off the bikes needed a change. It wasn't giving us enough time for the rest of our life. Which made us feel stressed. And when you are stressed, you aren't getting the quality sleep that you need. We decided to make a change. Ride 4 days a week with 3 days off the bikes but keep the same miles for the week. Which means we'll ride about 15 miles more each day.

So now we have a new routine.

And the rules? Oh, they stay the same. They always stay the same. They work just fine.

And it's always important to know the rules.


(Photo by Tom Burton)

4 comments:

  1. My teammate and I were having a similar conversation the other day about how, if you are not careful, biking (particularly training) can take over your life. I'm glad to hear you are finding a balance. As I am just starting the racing season, it will be awhile before I can have that balance again.

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    1. Good luck with the season, Colleen. Balance is good, but sometimes it is really worth it to just go into overdrive. Like that guy said, "Life is a big canvas. You have to throw a lot of paint at it." Looking forward to following your season!

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